Your body and yourself — who you are, what you look like, who you’ve been, what you want — is a deeply personal subject. It might feel fair to bring that up with a loved one or even someone you know casually, but especially for trans and nonbinary people, talking about specific body parts or medical history can feel invasive.
Transitioning is a process that is different for everyone and can involve a number of changes including medical and physical, legal, personal, and more. Whether someone has transitioned, is in the process of doing so, or hasn’t started, is very personal. It’s also very personal how someone shares that information. If a trans or nonbinary person decides to share information about their transition with you, that is their decision, and you should respect that and their right to privacy.
It’s important to remember that being trans or nonbinary isn’t determined by physical characteristics or “transitioning” itself, but a lifelong journey of self-discovery and identity. After all, sex and gender identity are two different things. Sex is a characterization based on what we were assigned at birth, and gender identity is a broader way of self-defining and being in the world as a woman, man, nonbinary person, and more.
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